One of the best days of Gabriella’s career was also one of her hardest days as a parent. Gabriella, who asked for a pseudonym to protect her children’s privacy, had just filmed the launch video for her new company. On the train ride back home, she got a call from her daughter’s school. The new nanny she’d hired, who had been thoroughly vetted, had left her two-year-old son locked in the car in the school’s parking lot and disappeared for half an hour before teachers heard the crying and rushed to help.
“I remember feeling so guilty and crushed, thinking, ‘Oh my God, I don’t feel like I can leave my children because I don’t know how to find childcare that I can trust,’” Gabriella says.
It’s been a bad time for working women. Last year, men joined the workforce at three times the rate of women (572,000 men vs 184,000 women). Meanwhile, over 455,000 women left the workforce between January and August. Almost half (42%) cited caregiving as the reason. Lean In and McKinsey’s “Women in the Workplace” report found 60% of senior level women reported burning out, compared with about 50% of men. Two researchers at Rutgers University found that caregiving strain is the largest predictor of burnout and leaving a job, especially among women who are 10 to 15 years into their careers.
The girlboss is out and the power pause is in.
Fast Company put out a call on LinkedIn, asking senior-level mothers how they were doing it and what hacks they were using. Over 100 wrote in, and their responses totaled over 48,000 words—the length of a short mystery novel. What their responses reveal is that while senior-level women might be making it work, they’re barely hanging on.
“Do other women have hobbies? Rich social lives? Energy enough to do much more than collapse into bed and scroll for a few minutes before passing out?” a chief content officer with one kid wrote.
Some of the hacks they offered unconsciously mirrored the hellscape they lived in. One mother said she used AI to generate a bedtime story read aloud in her own voice for her children during business trips. Another gave her child a toy laptop and trained her to “work” on it while she works.
“Stop hacking the system and literally burn the system down. It does not work, clearly,” Colleen Curtis, the head of community growth at Reddit and a single mother with two kids, commented.
The intensification of everything
Senior-level mothers are caught in a two-way trap: the intensification of work and the intensification of parenting.
The pandemic gave rise to remote jobs, but it also gave rise to the infinite work day as organizations discovered the boundary between work and home could be erased. This is a gift for working parents juggling school pickup times and nap schedules, but it’s also an exhausting burden for moms trying to power down during non-work hours.
According to Microsoft’s 2025 Work Trend Annual Report, on average, workers receive 117 emails a day and 153 Teams messages, and go two minutes between interruptions whether it’s a meeting, email, or message. Emails sent after 8:00pm have increased 16% in the last year, and the average worker receives over 50 emails after work hours. One third of workers said the pace of work over the past five years has made it impossible to keep up.
The intensification is hitting leaders hard. In its 2025 Global Leadership report, the leadership consultancy firm Development Dimensions International found 71% of the nearly 11,000 leaders it surveyed reported a significant increase in their stress level after taking on their current role, up from 63% in 2022. Another report found leadership burnout rose to 56% in 2024. Meanwhile, Gallup found about one third of leaders said they dealt with anger and sadness on a daily basis, and 46% were stressed every day—substantially higher than other employee groups.
Parenting is experiencing the same trend. Since the 1980s, the average amount of time spent with children has increased by an hour a day for fathers, and 1.5 hours for mothers. In 2024, the U.S. Surgeon General wrote an op-ed declaring that parental stress is a public health issue: 48% of parents say most days their stress is overwhelming. “My current position: You can choose about 2-3 things to do ‘well’ on any given day, and the rest . . . well, my late thirties have been about making peace with letting the rest be imperfect or unfinished,” wrote a mother who’d stepped back from a fast-paced media job to work remotely.
Mothers are bearing the brunt of this load. The Pew Research Center found mothers are more likely to help children with their homework, manage schedules, provide emotional support, and feed and bathe their child. On average, fathers have three more leisure hours a week than mothers.
Meanwhile, according to the Women at Work report, in 2024 women with partners were more than three times as likely as men with partners to be responsible for all the housework.
Parenting should be a two-body solution, but more often than not, the women who wrote in said they were shouldering most of the burden.
“If I need to pick up kids at 4 p.m., there’s absolutely no way I’ll accept a meeting at that time, not even for Obama,” wrote a divorced mother of two in Mexico. “But flexibility comes both ways. I stop at 4 p.m., then I come back and finish stuff until 6 p.m. and if I’m missing something, I’ll open my laptop after the kids are asleep. The truth is I can manage work and kids. The one I’m missing is me. Healthy eating and a gym routine has been left as a fourth priority and I haven’t managed to make time for that. I hate that because it’s not what I want my kids to learn from me. Mom needs to take care of herself.”
Hacks for surviving a broken system
The vast majority of the hacks mothers offered were about carving out a few extra hours to survive in a broken system, and fell in three main buckets. First, hire as much help as you can afford, especially for tasks that you don’t like, whether it’s cleaning or cooking. However, many younger leaders said childcare was all they could afford. Second, outsource the mental load to AI agents: More than one mother had even built companies with AI products to help others do this. Third, become superhumanly organized: There were countless emails recommending batch cooking on weekends, time blocking and calendaring everything (“school pickup is a standing meeting”), and being ruthless about saying no.
Very few hacks got at changing the system itself.
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Finding the right fit
The mothers who were the happiest had one thing in common: They had found workplaces that genuinely believed in work-life balance. An overwhelming majority of the mothers who wrote in said they worked remotely, or switched to a remote job once they had children. One survey found that over a third of women (37%) who left their jobs in 2025 worked in companies without flexible schedules.
Megha Sharma, the chief legal and people officer at Aryaka, a global network security company, has two children and says working mothers should evaluate prospective employers on two fronts.
First, examine the company’s benefits: “If your organization is not providing parental leave, and only providing maternal leave, consider whether they are providing it only because it’s required by law or because they truly support working parents,” she says. “When they are not providing flexible spending accounts for childcare or other childcare-related benefits, ask yourself what is the company telling me? Is the company [in] early stages and therefore, truly not in a position to provide support [yet] or does the company simply not recognize . . . the demands on working parents . . . ?”
Second, look up other employees on LinkedIn: “Are all employees in one age group? Are employees spread across age groups?” Sharma wrote. “[If so,] likely they’re encountering and supportive of employees who are . . . having varying life events, marriages, pregnancies, young children, older parents, caregiving responsibilities across the board.”
Shamim Noorani Gillani, senior vice president of growth and client success at Carrum Health, took this a step further. During her maternity leave with her second child, she knew she needed to find a company that was more family friendly. She folded childcare into her interviews.
At Carrum, she said, “The first [interview] was with the female chief growth officer. At one point I was like, ‘Hey, I’m sorry you hear that screaming. I have an infant. Can you give me a second?’ I just came back on video, and I had a cover, and I was breastfeeding on an interview . . . For [the follow-up] I had the baby strapped to me, because . . . it was during nap time. For the final round interview with our CEO . . . he said, ‘Please bring the baby, there’s no concern.’” He and Gillani met at the public gardens at a child-friendly coffee shop.
Gillani admits she did not bring her baby to another company that invited her to bring the baby, but scheduled the interview at a high-end restaurant.
She ended up with several offers. “The feedback I got throughout the interviews is, ‘Wow, if she can handle this stage in her life and also send very thoughtful follow-up with us, it seems like she can handle our clients and she can handle a large team.’”
Ultimately, she chose Carrum because “it was a lot more accommodating and could read cues of what I needed for an interview.”
Set your boundaries and hold firm
Tamara Sykes, director of strategy and insights at Stacker, a content distribution platform, sends a “Get To Know Me” deck to everyone she works with. It includes a slide with her best meeting times (9:30 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. during the school year) and she updates it to include her kids’ summer vacation schedule.
She walks through it with new hires on her team, and sends it to her bosses as well as any other teams she might be working with. “It’s actually helped people stop looking at me in a negative light because I’m very honest . . . There’s a line in the deck that says, ‘I will always ask for a deadline’ because the truth is I’m playing calendar Tetris as a mom. That helped people understand that I wasn’t coming for them—I was asking so they could do their job well, and so I wasn’t the one holding things up.”
Sykes got the idea from a female boss she had early on in her career who had gone through a divorce and was solo parenting.
Michele Morris, vice president of U.S. marketing for Big Green Egg, an outdoor cooking brand, has two children. Every night from 5:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. she and her husband put their phones in a drawer so they can be present with their kids. She listed this in her company onboarding document which she got at the start of the job. “I’m very clear about that boundary. . . . It’s not that I won’t respond to the ping, I’ll respond at 8:15 p.m.”
However, both Morris and Sykes pointed out that the success of their boundaries rested on the shoulders of an understanding boss and company culture that did not penalize them for having boundaries.
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Slice and dice
When Kelly Stack, now a vice president of midwestern partnerships at the adtech firm Big Happy, was pregnant with her first child she successfully negotiated to work four days a week. However, her friend Jessica Pfennig told her: “You’re going to work five days a week and only get paid for four.”
Stack proposed that she and Pfennig split the job. Today, Stack works Monday through Wednesday, and Pfennig works Wednesday through Friday. They each receive 60% of a full-time salary and split their commissions 50/50, and have a shared login account to access of all their company’s systems.
To get the arrangement approved, they put together a formal pitch deck, pointing out the savings—they would cover each other’s maternity leave and vacations. They were turned down at first, but finally negotiated a six-month trial period. It also helped that Stack was the top salesperson at the company.
Thirteen years later, they’ve maintained this partnership at three different companies.
The arrangement has allowed both—each a mother of three—to be present in their children’s lives. However, Pfennig points out that there’s a cost: “We’re vice presidents, but we’re still individual contributors. I think we could manage together fine, but I don’t think that’d be fair to the people we’d be managing because . . . they’d have [two] different expectations.”
Literally burn the system down
When she had her first child in 2020, Taylor Capuano was working a mid-level marketing role. She crunched the numbers. “I remember sitting at the counter with my husband looking at our expenses, going ‘I just don’t know if it makes sense for me to continue working.’ And I’m someone who gets a lot of fulfillment for my career.”
Fast forward three years. Capuano did not stop working, but she and her sister Casey started a new company called Cakes, which makes silicone nipple covers. In 2024, Capuano had a second child: “I was in a very different financial situation, and I had sufficient childcare. I didn’t stress about great quality childcare when I was returning back to work. It was a very different experience when I didn’t have the emotional and financial burden of childcare costs. I was more productive, and rested.”
“I realized it’s a luxury in our country to have good quality child care . . . I remember talking to my sister being like, ‘Well, I wish we could do something for our team, a lot of them are young moms . . .’ And she’s like, ‘Let’s just pay for their child care costs.’”
Last year, Cakes started offering employees a $3,000 monthly childcare stipend for each child under the age of five. Since then, it’s seen a 10% increase in revenue, had a 0% attrition rate and gone viral.
What’s less discussed is that Cakes also has an employee handbook that meticulously outlines what a parent-friendly work culture looks like in practice.
Core hours are 9:30 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. in an employee’s time zone. “During this time, everyone should be reachable and meetings may be scheduled. Outside these hours, employees are empowered to structure their time around real life,” the handbook states. It goes on to list norms such as respond to Slack messages within two hours, email within 24, and Wednesdays are protected time with no meetings.
It also acknowledges the realities of being a working parent and says: “Kids can unexpectedly appear on Zoom. Parents may turn their camera off while managing a little one in the background.”
“A lot of times, like, companies will have flexible work policies, but they don’t really say what that means,” says Tracy Park, chief business officer at Cakes and a mother of two. “Something as little as your child can appear on screen during a Zoom, is not usually something you would think you’d need to call out, but I think seeing it there relieves the pressure.”
The company also has a formal support system for employees returning from parental leave. These parents receive a 30-60-90 day reentry plan tailored to their role and a manager check-in protocol for the first three months back. This policy was created as Cakes prepared for its first two employees to go on leave.
“A lot of the employees are working moms and we just think about what we would have loved to have as a working mom,” says Park. “It’s built into the culture: How should we help?” At the moment, the team is 87% female, and 58% are mothers.
The company also has a one-month quiet period between December to January, akin to a summer vacation, which was created after Capuano and her sister went on back-to-back maternity leaves and the company saw 10x growth. “They realized as long as they planned for it and built it into the strategy, the whole company could take a month off,” Park says.
The policy is enforced from the top down. “Managers and leaders are encouraged to model flexible behaviors, leaving for pickups and taking parental leave . . . Culture is set from the top,” the handbook says. “We measure our output, not hours.”
No end in sight
In many ways Cakes, which was built by working mothers for working mothers, is the prototype of what a healthy work culture can and should look like. It’s worth noting Cakes’ sales revenue was $95 million last year, up 240% YoY. This year it’s on track to make $120 million.
Many women who are discovering that today’s work culture is no longer sustainable are following suit and building their own companies. In 2019, 24% of new businesses were started by women. By 2024, this had climbed to 49%, and today over half of solopreneurs in America are women.
“As much as it pains me to say it, I’ve accepted that the corporate table wasn’t built to support working moms. Consulting gives me control over my time, income and my trajectory,” wrote Jess Santini, a mother of two and a former vice president of global marketing at a media agency who was laid off last year.
She has since opened her own freelance business. “Consulting gives me control over my time, my income, and my trajectory and after years of working in the advertising industry, I’ve built enough contacts to gain a steady stream of client work.”
Still, companies designed by women for women are the exception, not the rule. With the rise of AI, and the tight job market, there’s little incentive for large employers to change. At the policy level, advocates are busy fighting for baseline protections. For example, Chamber of Mothers, a nonprofit organization that advocates on behalf of mothers in America, has identified the three most important policies working mothers need to fight for: paid parental leave, maternal health, and government-subsidized childcare.
By comparison, the needs of senior-level women feel hardly urgent. After all, if these women are barely hanging on, the rank and file are on fire or have simply given up on having children.
As Erin Erenberg, CEO and cofounder of Chamber of Mothers, points out, “Cultural flexibility inside the workplace happens once we live under federal and state norms that expect people to be taking time for care.”
But she’s living the problem, too. When pressed further about what a workplace that allows women to be mothers would look like or what policies could facilitate this, Erenberg pauses. She’d built a national coalition of over 100,000 mothers with over 40 chapters. She’s also a lawyer specializing in intellectual property law and the founder of Totum, an advocacy platform for mothers.
She tells me she’s struggling, mentioning her guilt over missing her son’s soccer games, which are an hour-and-a-half drive away. But Erenberg probably didn’t even need to tell me of her personal challenges and the ways in which the problem runs deeper than simple solutions.
After I put out my request on LinkedIn, she was one of the first mothers who responded. Her practical solutions for managing her career and motherhood are very familiar: meal prepping and time blocking.
